The hot new method of ending a relationship which is so popular it’s even sporting its own name is ghosting.
Ghosting in a relationship means that communication and contact has been cut off without warning and for no apparent reason. At first you wonder “what’s going on?”
Ghosting, as we know now, is a disappearing act, usually reserved for romantic relationships, in which one person seemingly suddenly drops off the face of the planet: No more calls or texts, no more social media, and maybe even no more contact with mutual.
In one of the few research studies examining the experience of ghosting, 25 percent of approximately 550 men and women reported having been ghosted, and about 20 percent said they've ghosted someone with whom they were romantically involved.
Many think that this phenomenal sounds like the perfect way to end a relationship. Whereas one day everything’s going great, at least the other person thinks so, and the next day you disappear. No breakup talk, no crying, no anything.
Ghosting can kill chance of trust, leaves another person hanging and unfortunately you drag someone else to your confusion.
According to Kristine Seitz, who is researching ghosting said that, “Ambiguity and lack of closure is a recipe for increased anxiety.” She explains, “The mind is a meaning-making machine, and people will typically fill in the gaps with their own and often self-critical story.”
The only person who benefits from ghosting is the ghoster. And if you’re a ghoster, especially if you ghost regularly, it might be because you’re dodging the hard work of difficult feelings and conversations. And that’s important to take a closer look at.
“What am I avoiding?” can be a helpful introspective question. Seitz suggests you reflect on what you’re afraid of: “Be curious of what comes up, and to be intentional in unpacking it.”
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